Becoming Conscious in Love

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What we're looking at is becoming conscious in love.

Once we start to really, like, see our own patterns and see the deeper blueprint of what is there for us, then that is how we become conscious in love. Becoming conscious in love is being with a complete willingness to embrace what is in the shadow and what is in the unconscious.

It's not about you become conscious in love so you're perfect, and you're healed, and you're doing it from like, you know, you've got the perfect relationship. Consciousness in love is the capacity to continually welcome to the table everything that is part of your relational reality, part of what dwells in the underworld, part of what dwells in the subconscious, unconscious, that is conscious in love.

It's like because love, and I guess when I say that, it's like the encounters with men and the masculine will bring up everything to the surface that is not love, so that it can be cleared and purified. And so to become conscious in love, you are just cultivating a container where all of that can come up and can continue to come up, and will never stop coming up. It will maybe lessen, or it would go through different phases. But the consciousness in love is your willingness to keep meeting and keep welcoming everything that dwells in the underneath and like not stop.

Even like today or yesterday, or whenever it was, I caught myself as, like, not wanting a certain experience in life because it was bringing me a certain discomfort. And I was like: "Oh, look at myself, like be in an avoidance of reality by doing that." Like, some, you know, some relationship dynamics, they're like, tricky, they're difficult to navigate. And my like: "I want something else, I want something different." is my avoidance of the relational reality.

So it's not, I'm not saying you open yourself wide to any kind of like, anything and everything. You have to also have discernment about what you're gonna like enter into, and what you're not and what's worthy of your time and what's worthy of your energy.

And it's like the reality of like, of being deeply like, relational in whatever context is that it's gonna require, like you continuously meeting your own layers of like defence and shutdown and withdrawal and anxiousness and insecurity, like essentially all of your insecure patterning, so that you can become more and more secure as you, as you meet it and alchemize it.

This is like, essentially, like, how you create a secure attachment is you decide you're going to become very conscious. You decide and you work at it, you're going to become very conscious about the ways in which you're wired relationally, like all your attachment, woundings, your family imprints, your your your childhood wounds, your generational wounds, ancestral wounds, your cultural wounds. We're all coming into this world with this inheritance. We all have a core wound. Nobody gets out of that.

And so you cultivate, like, a secure foundation with your within yourself by working with cultivating the resources (which we do in spiral one) that allow you to really tap into your inner, inner foundation of like wholeness. But then your inner foundation of wholeness, like, essentially allows you to kind of create this vessel of yourself where you're like: "Okay, I'm whole. I have access to resource. I'm whole. I have capacity." so that you can keep continually meeting what needs your love. And you don't turn away from it, like, you say yes, you've got you. You know it might be difficult, it might be painful, but you you, you say yes. And the more that you meet it, especially somatically, the more that like what's going to happen is, is it's going to clear. You're going to clear, like, once you start seeing these things, once you start seeing these patterns, and you start feeling them, and you start moving them energetically, that anger, that hate is like, go there, like, allow it to move through your body. Allow it. Because when you have an opportunity like that, and it's live, then you just have the capacity, the opportunity to to let it move through your system so that it can clear. Then the more that you're clearing and the more that you're opening, the more that you're willing to feel it, the more that you can keep bringing it into your foundation of wholeness, and the more that you create security within yourself.

Because those parts that are getting activated, they're the parts that like want to be known, want to be felt, want to be heard, want to be seen.
And then once you can see them and feel them and hear them for yourself, then you're not moving from a place of unconsciousness. You're bringing them into your vessel of love, into your container of consciousness, and then you can, you can become an invitation from your wholeness, from your woman, and not from your wound or from your fragment.