Our Current Relationship Crisis

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What I want to do is just start with this first point, which is why men and women struggle to meet each other.

And I think it's a worthy point to begin with, because I think this is the basis of many, kind of much like relationship woes, and we fundamentally have this way that we're not meeting each other. I think there's, there's a crisis in relationship on this planet at this time, and I think that has been going on for a very, very long time, and we just kind of, like really seeing how, like, old ways of being just aren't working and and so like, why are we missing each other? Like, what is happening that men and women, that this, that this natural, organic act of creation of men and women coming together is going so fundamentally wrong? Is so fundamental, is like difficult, is the source of much suffering and many problems, like in people's personal lives, but also in the collective.

So as I was tuning into this, what I was feeling is like this. So like this topic is so varied and so complex that the one thing that I want to go in on is this, which is, men and women are different, like, we're different and, like, just on like a biological level, we are different. Our bodies are different. The way that our bodies work, the places in our bodies, the genitalia of our bodies is different. So we are different in design, and yet, I feel there's a fundamental lack of understanding of the difference between what it means to be a man and what it means to be a woman.

And when we peel back this, when we peel back the fundamental mis-, like misunderstanding of this difference. What I feel is it goes way, way, way, way back in our history, so that you can trace it all the way back to the matriarchal lineages, the matriarchal times when our culture was kind of created around the cycles, the seasons, the relationship, the web of life, the the creation of life, the
birth of life through woman's body, like everything was revolving around that design. And then we had the patriarchal order which came and tried to dominate and control nature. And then we had the witch hunts, which was an annihilation of the magic of the world, which has created this kind of anti relational mentality that we are still encased in, in this world today, that is still pervading, that is still part of the consciousness and the tapestry of the way that the world works. There's inherently this anti relational psychology mentality that we are we are encased within unconsciously, right?

So what that means is that those of us who are wired to the relational reality i We
have like the feminine. The feminine is wired for love. The feminine is wired for love and connection. When I say the feminine, I mean the feminine. So the feminine is a principle of life itself, and the feminine is wired for love and connection and the masculine is consciousness. The masculine is wired for freedom.

So we have the way that the culture is set up. We have like an anti relational which means the feminine is suppressed, repressed with a consciousness, with a consciousness with a kind of drive for freedom that is based on the control of nature. It's not a union with, it's not a freedom that is a union with nature, right?

So we have this like, we have this fundamental kind of like anti relational mentality that we're encased within that creates this kind of like avoidance of intimacy and relationship as kind of like the baseline culture that we're encased within. And then the way that this plays out is that this is a distortion. This is like an archaic, like, inherited cultural distortion that we are within, that we're encased within, that we are unconsciously we've unconsciously inherited and absorbed from the lineage, from the history, from all of those things.

And what this means is that this distortion then gets acted out in the macro. This distortion then gets acted out in, sorry, in the micro, in the form of the anxious and avoidant, right? So men and women keep missing each other, because there's a fundamental difference between us, and there's also this way in which we are we're different, and we don't know about these difference, and this difference isn't celebrated. And what happens is that difference because it's not, no, it's not conscious, and it's not owned. It becomes this unconscious. It's part of the unconscious, like pattern and program that we've inherited that is then in distortion.

Can I get some nods in the house if I'm if this is resonating, yeah. Can you see that? Can you feel that? Yeah, I'm trying my very best to explain something that's it's quite complex that this is my... thank you for the thumbs up. I love that. This is... thank you for the hearts love that.

So this is, you know, this is, I'm trying to, like, really pick it apart in terms of, like, this is the macro in the micro level, we fundamentally are missing each other because we're encased in a paradigm that we've inherited that is anti relational, and that creates this distortion because of the suppression of the feminine, and also because of the suppression of the insulted masculine.

And this means that the true masculine and the true feminine are also in distortion inside of us. And so we are coming together from this really, really, really, really wonky foundation, and we are trying to do relationship from a very archaic, distorted story and a very wonky like foundation for love.

And so it creates this, this way in which we are acting out this distortion and this dysfunction with each other, because of all, all of those, all of these pieces, right?

So, what can we do to shift this? What can you do to shift this, whether you're in a relationship, whether you're single? This is also multi layered, so I'm going to try and pick it apart.

So what we can do to shift this is we can learn fundamentally about the masculine and the feminine like and so when I say masculine, feminine, I'm talking about love. The feminine is love, the expression of love, the energy of love, and the masculine as consciousness. Right? 

At the moment, we're struggling because there's a war between between love and consciousness. The the archaic story, the distorted story, wants to suppress, wants to control, wants to dominate, wants to avoid. Wants to pillage love. Wants to keep it squashed, keep it down and and until there's this way in which consciousness comes into alignment with the feminine principle, comes into alignment with love, like removes that distorted layer of that archaic program, then there can't be, you know, the unification, right? So what we can do, whether we're single or in relationship, to change this, is come into relationship with the relational reality of life.

So when we come into relationship with the relational reality of life, consciousness then turns towards love and says: "What do you want? What do you need?" - Right?

And then, instead of trying to deny or squash or repress or be in this archaic avoidance of the relational reality, there's a turning towards where love and consciousness can come together to create the union that is creational, right?

So whether you're single or whether you're in a relationship, this is the work that you do. The unification of love and consciousness, the marriage of love and consciousness, the inner alchemical union of the masculine and feminine, is a journey that you can go on and must go on inside of yourself in order to become a whole human being in order to become a human being that is integrated, right?

So, this is kind of like first step is that you unify love the love. You come into relationship with the with the flow, with the current, with the with the expression of love inside yourself, you come to know it, and you turn your consciousness towards it in a way that allows the essence of your heart, the essence of your deep soul, to exist, to breathe, to take space, to to to be, to like, be wired once again, to be, to be rewoven into existence, once again, Right? Because there's so many people that are living with like underneath the cloak of a consciousness that fundamentally is anti relational, avoidant and suppresses the feminine principle out of fear, out of shame, out of all of this archaic kind of story that we're carrying and an inherited story that we're carrying, and when that is there, it's really not possible at all to have a relationship that meets your deep heart and meets your deep soul.

So what we can do to change this is we like, what we do to change this is we get real about our relational reality. We get really honest about our relational reality. We get really come into relationship with like, what is the way in which I am perpetuating an anti relational reality, because it will be there if it if it's happening in your outer world, if it's happening in your relationships, it will also be happening inside of yourself, because the relationships that we're a part of are always a reflection of what's going on inside of us, not like key to key, but it will be not like mirror to mirror. It's not the exact same thing, but there will be a way in which the relationships that we're a part of or we're attracting are bringing us closer to the relational reality that is existing inside.