The Erotic Soul & The Sacred

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The erotic soul and the sacred is a realm that really allows you to bring the the divine into your relational reality, right? And so this is where it gets kind of like really juicy, because
where you know. For example, if there's like, longings or desires that you experience, you can metabolize those longings and desires and bring them into consciousness and then articulate them in a way that is like healthy communication and all of those things, but the erotic soul wants to be expressed.

So the invitation, when you're bringing, when you're activating, like, the sacred dimension of of your relational reality is, how do you express that through your body in a way that is the invitation? In a way that is like through your open heart, through your open vessel, and is the invitation into a deeper love?

So, you know, if you you've been in circle with me, and we've practised this, you know you practise it through the dance, and through the feminine embodiment. You open your vessel, you move your body, open your vessel so that you can feel this, like, sacred pulse of love pulsing through your body. And it is, like, this divinity, and you're touching the divinity. So that's what you do in your own private practice. That's how you become, like, a practitioner of love, essentially, is you work that muscle within yourself. And then when it gets really juicy is when you can begin to play with that in life, in in your relationships. How is it that you can see the divine in every moment? How is it that you can see the divine in this in this fight with your partner right now? How is it that you can
see the divine in every step of every piece of everything that comes up, and then when you can see the divine in it?

Because you know when we when we bring the sacred dimension to consciousness, into reality, you're not a victim of circumstance, you're just an instrument of the Divine. And so this particular circumstance, or this particular dynamic is playing a particular note, and it might be that this note is taking you to ecstasy, or it might be that this note is taking you to Hades, but both Hades and ecstasy, both heaven and hell, are the divine. And so when you start to see that that potential, then you're kind of merging duality, so that everything is just an experience that's taking you deeper into love.

And the trick is, okay, I'm triggered. I'm activated. I have something going on. Like, how do I open as this thing, rather than close or go into pattern or withdraw or go into attack or go into blame? How do I notice that I'm in a relational reality, or relational dynamic, or and I'm being activated? How do I open as this, like, wide like this way, rather than like attacking that way to be an expression of, like, this as love. Because the truth is, you're human. Every part of your human experience is an expression of love. We've just kind of gone like: "Okay, this is good and this is bad. So it's good to be laughing and to be soft and to be, you know, happy, and it's bad to be, you know, sad, or, like, angry, or all of those things." But how do we not do that? How do we bring that together and go: "Oh, actually, I'm just really angry right now." Or, like, you know, if you're angry, and instead of like, going: "Actually, we need to sit down and talk about it and have conscious communication." You just go, you know: "Grrrr!" That would completely, like, open the moment, you know, in a way that is like, like, and the other person might be like that, and you're like: "Grrr!" Yeah? You know, like, you just hold your kind of your your juice, and because this is like, you know, when the erotic is present, you can play. You can move that energy. Because it's, like, it's coming from the deep well of your of your womb, of your soul, of your turn on. It's, it's erotic to feel, no matter what it is you feel.

This is like, this is the missing piece in like, probably 98% of the relationships on the planet is connection to the erotic poles. This connection to the sacred in the body that allows divinity to be present in every moment. Yeah, and obviously, you know, we're human, and we have patterns that are very strong, but all we can do is notice: "Okay, this is a pattern, and I have a choice about closing down and opening, opening through the pattern." So the erotic and the sacred allow, allow you to open.

When I pulse Eros through this closed heart of mistrust it's like, I'm opening, but I'm also like going: "If you want to come in, then you have to fucking prove it." You know, that's what's happening in my body. You might want to experiment, like pulsing your Eros through this closed heart, like just filling yourself with your own love, with the love of the Divine, until, like, the actual truth of what's in your heart can really be revealed. Like, well, it's not that your closure isn't the truth, but it's, like, what would be the open invitation of your of your mistrust of the closed heart?

So this is, like, the missing piece. Like, the missing ingredient is this attunement to the divine in your own body, and then how to bring that through your body in a way that invites deeper intimacy. And I know it. I can imagine, like, you know, maybe you're sitting there. It's like, kind of paradoxical, because when you go into contraction or constriction, like, you don't want to invite, don't want to invite intimacy, you want to shut down. But if you are generally, like, devoted to love, then this is the trick. This is what we have to be devoted to. We have to be devoted to connecting with love, connecting with the field of love beyond our own kind of constriction, and moving it through the constriction, so that we can express whatever the feeling is with love.

So this piece, this piece of the erotic is, like, what allows us this connection to the divine, this connection to the sacred, this this connection to the pulse of love through the body is what really allows us to move through like our habitual patterns in love.

Without this connection to the erotic, what will happen is the patterns will take over. So it's not that like you get into relationship and everything's going to go perfectly. What's going to happen is you're going to get into going to get into relationship, and all of your deepest patterns are going to come to the surface, right? And that is a given. It's a given. And if you don't know the skill of opening past your patterns and your constriction, then your constriction and your patterns are going to sabotage love.

So the real art form is in having an awareness of these three layers of love. Having an awareness of: I've got my, my beautiful, gnarly, subconscious, unconscious domain reality, you know, of of the unconscious, gnarly kind of things that triggers, like all of those, like those, you know, shadowy bits that we can meet in ourselves, that also come up tenfold. And then we have the awareness of them, and then we have the the practice of opening to love through the patterns. So it's not waiting for the patterns to disappear to open to love. You, you feel the pattern, and you open to love, and then that allows you to open in the full expression of love, to open in the expression of of what's real, without it needing to be like: "This is good" or : "This is bad." But this is just what's real.